Hmm. So he blames himself for things going wrong. Then there is that whole other issue of surprise, you're not human! Okay.
You do not have to identify with his problems to help, Wukong. Trust me on that. I know that from watching Charlie. You can still help despite not fully knowing or feeling what someone else is going through.
Perhaps those two things are related. A lack of self identity could be what causes him to blame himself. He's trying to find who he is. And, unfortunately, many of us tend to lean toward blaming ourselves and labeling ourselves as the monster or the problem. Especially when there are others who, despite not having our best intentions in mind, reinforce that view. Trust me. I know the feeling.
Perhaps instead of trying to counter it, something you can do is acknowledge it a little more. Tell him you see him. Yes, he's messed up. Yes, he's caused problems. But no one holds him solely responsible. And he can accept that but also be kinder to himself about it because everyone makes messes and mistakes. Look at the pig in your journey. He caused SOOOOOOO so so so many problems, didn't he? Even Macaque did for you.
Heaven, spirits, demons, and even yourself. And the monk. Especially the monk.
But you remember most of them fondly. Why? It worked out. You could move forward. Even when things were really really bad. And even now, you have messes you feel you need to clean up. Like with Macaque, don't you?
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Re: Voice - Morning after the cursed game > Action
Date: 2024-06-21 07:58 pm (UTC)You do not have to identify with his problems to help, Wukong. Trust me on that. I know that from watching Charlie. You can still help despite not fully knowing or feeling what someone else is going through.
Perhaps those two things are related. A lack of self identity could be what causes him to blame himself. He's trying to find who he is. And, unfortunately, many of us tend to lean toward blaming ourselves and labeling ourselves as the monster or the problem. Especially when there are others who, despite not having our best intentions in mind, reinforce that view. Trust me. I know the feeling.
Perhaps instead of trying to counter it, something you can do is acknowledge it a little more. Tell him you see him. Yes, he's messed up. Yes, he's caused problems. But no one holds him solely responsible. And he can accept that but also be kinder to himself about it because everyone makes messes and mistakes. Look at the pig in your journey. He caused SOOOOOOO so so so many problems, didn't he? Even Macaque did for you.
Heaven, spirits, demons, and even yourself. And the monk. Especially the monk.
But you remember most of them fondly. Why? It worked out. You could move forward. Even when things were really really bad. And even now, you have messes you feel you need to clean up. Like with Macaque, don't you?